I haven’t felt the need to write on this blog in the last few weeks. Mainly because things are going well for the most part. M’s behaviors are improving. And as a major improvement, he seems quite a bit happier.
M’s generally frustrated state is the one thing that I believe concerns me the most. I think that kids should generally be happy. Yes, they have their psychological/developmental hurdles to overcome but those should be surrounded by times of genuine content. I love when M is just joyous. He can swing from happy to full meltdown and back over a short period of time. I treasure the times when we spend hours just playing and laughing without incident.
Here are the improvements:
- Sleep is better. Generally speaking, he is only waking once per night. We’ve had a few nights where he has slept through the night.
- He is less aggressive. There were a few days last week where he had a few moments scratching and punching, but in general, things are good. So much better.
- M2 is less guarded around him and is interacting with him more. Sometimes even playing together. I think she is sensing how much less aggressive he is as well.
- Eating. He is eating more. Not well, but at least I see him getting more nourishment.
- I can be more relaxed and therefore he is more relaxed.
- He is wearing clothes with buttons and waistbands. I didn’t realize before that his sensitivity to clothing comes at a much later stage in his dysregulation and he is fine with normal pants as long as all else is okay in his world.
Here are the things that I think are helping usher in the improvements:
- M is drinking less milk. I am almost certain that milk was causing us some trouble. I am about to put him through a battery of tests with a pediatric naturopath to check and see if there is anything else we should be avoiding.
- A more consistent schedule. Neither of us has traveled recently, no major holidays, no major illnesses.
- I am constantly reflecting on “trying differently.” When something isn’t working, I give up faster to try something else. For example, if it’s bedtime and he is just tossing and turning, I know more tossing and turning doesn’t seem to help so instead we go outside for some fresh air or swing in the therapy swing for a bit.
- Occupational Therapy (OT) has definitely taught me to take transitions much more slowly. It really is the little things that keep him regulated.
Of course, my pessimism will take over and I start to think that we’ve had these honeymoon weeks and months before. And always in the past, the behaviors have come back with a vengeance. I am trying to be positive and to keep enjoying the boy I have right now.